Recently, I posted a guided masturbation exercise on another website and I did not want any of my readers of Kink Curriculum to miss out!  This assignment involves elements of orgasm control, however, the theme is heavily focused on anal training as well.  Check it out and if you’re so inclined, do tell me what you think and/or how it worked out for you. 

Mina, Kink Artist Extraordinaire

AIM/Yahoo/Twitter: kinkyfunmina

Email: kinkyfunmina@yahoo.com

CBT, or cock and ball torture, seems like an activity that most male submissives (or most males in general) would do their best to avoid being subjected to.  While I am not a hardcore sadist, I have to tell you that engaging a play partner in mild to moderate forms of CBT can be most exhilarating for both the dominant and submissive involved.  Understand that I appreciate and love a man’s cock and balls, and derive great pleasure from them in a variety of ways…including inflicting a little pain or sensation to his most sensitive parts.

The thing to understand here is pain can actually be a very erotic experience.  Most often pain is associated with punishment, and understandably so.  However, in the right context, pain can be a shared sensual and powerful exchange.  Endorphin release via pain play enhances the senses and quiets the mind…not to mention how utterly beautiful a boy looks and sounds while receiving a nice, loving whipping to his private parts.    CBT can also involve activities  such as cock bondage with ropes, implementing chastity devices, use of electrical toys or even urethral insertion.

My idea of CBT is not so much that it be utilized as a form of “punishment”, per se, but more as a way to enhance submissive feelings (both physically and mentally).   When a submissive is focused on the physical sensations of pain, he is more apt to attain a sense of sub-space, because let’s face it, you’re not going to be pondering that big work project or thinking about mundane chores you still have to take care of when your cock is being flogged, pinched and/or paddled.   That’s the thing about pain play in general; it essentially forces one to be in the moment. Everything else that worries one in their daily round becomes irrelevant.  And in that frame of mind, sub-space is more easily attained.  It’s actually quite a serene thing to witness.  Creating a balance between pleasure and pain is a favorite way I like to carry out CBT games.  The very best part is when a play mate is so immersed in the physical, he is temporarily unable to differentiate between pleasure and pain.  Now that, is a most excellent display of exerting control over another’s body!

For the novice CBT practitioner or seeker, the most important thing to remember is to go slow and experiment with various sensations.  Start out with some light ball slapping…then perhaps move onto candle wax decoration to the cock (its best to shave the genital area *before* dripping hot wax; clean-up will be easier),  some clothespins…maybe a little game of cock percussion by drumming up some lovely melodies with wooden spoons, rulers, metal spoons, and so on.  Wartenberg wheels are also excellent tools for sensation play…on any part of the flesh.   Binding the cock with rope or cord can be a lot of fun too…and I plan to include a segment and a more involved kink assignment  incorporating cock-bondage play in a separate post soon.

Safety tip:  You should never do anything that might bend or squish an erect penis.  You do NOT want to damage the erectile tissue.  I don’t care how much of a sadist/masochist you are!

And now, for a little Kink Assignment involving some CBT:

You will need–

• Lots of clothespins
• Your cock and balls
• A camera if you’re brave enough to share your “masterpiece” with me….

Take off all of your clothes.  Relax.  Take a few nice, deep breaths.  Sit on the floor with your legs bent up and spread.  Beginning at the base of your cock, and affix the clothespins…start close to your anus, and place one clothespin after another, keeping them as close as you possibly can.   Use as many clothespins as you can to your balls and bring them up to the head of your cock.  It should look almost like a “mohawk”.   When you have all of the clothespins attached to your cock/balls as you can fit, lie on your back and stay there for at least ten minutes more.  As you’re lying there, all prettily decorated like that, concentrate on what is going through your mind.  What are you thinking about?  How does this make you feel? Physically, emotionally?  Take a picture of your new “art project”.   Do not exceed twenty minutes with the clothespins on your body.

When the 10 to 20 minutes are up, remove the clothespins. If you’re a genuine painslut, go ahead and pull them off quickly!  Remember, taking clothespins off of your body will hurt a hell of a lot more then putting them on.  Relish in these sensations and share what that felt like with me here or in a private email.  Then with your hands, get yourself off.  How does your orgasm feel after you subjected your cock and balls to a bit of torment?

I invite you to share your work…send photos and/or email reports to: kinkyfunmina@yahoo.com

Until next time,

Mina, Kink Artist Extraordinaire

1-888-662-6482

Twitter/Yahoo/AIM: kinkyfunmina

Begging can be difficult for some submissives.  It places one in a vulnerable position; there is a kind of “lowering” in status that occurs when one begs.  Our society emphasizes self-assuredness, agency of the individual and independence. When one is in a situation where begging takes place, notions of agency and Self are no longer relevant.  In BDSM scenarios, begging can be an intense form of power-over.

I’m of the mind that begging works best when it is not forced.  In fact, when it comes to kink play and BDSM in general, I really don’t believe “forcing” anything fits well within any exchange of power.  I don’t care if you consider yourself “Super-Dom”; people cannot be coerced into acts they do not want to do.  If they are, it’s called abuse and abusive behavior has no place in BDSM or D/s exchanges.

Back to the begging.

When done in the ideal context, begging can be seen as a mechanism to bring about a deeper feeling of submission in the submissive and increase a sense of dominance and control in the dominant.  It isn’t so much about degradation, though in other contexts, begging done to enhance feelings of humiliation can and does work well.  The beggar begs as a symbolic and tangent way to reinforce his or her lack of control in a situation.

Situational Begging

It’s one thing to beg for something one wants…(i.e. the submissive begging to be allowed to orgasm), but what about begging for something one *doesn’t* necessarily want?  In D/s exchanges, there are times when the dominant may be training the submissive in various elements of BDSM play and/or protocol.  Part of what can make a D/s exchange so enriching  is not so much the dominant exerting power, but rather choreographing experiences for the submissive to learn and grow from.   Pushing boundaries and stretching past one’s comfort zone often are the keys to growth of any significant kind.

Submissives who are “made” (and I use the word loosely, mind you) to beg for something they don’t or wouldn’t think they desired can find themselves attaining a whole other level of surrender.  Part of the stretching of boundaries elicits a deepening submission toward one’s dominant, and for some it creates a temporary feeling of helplessness.  Begging to receive a punishment or to partake in a task that one is not looking forward to can definitely increase a sense of humility. There is an art to begging, though some might even say its a subtle form of manipulation on the part of the submissive, a form of topping from the bottom.    The adept dominant knows how to create a *need* in the submissive so that the thing being begged for feels true and real to the submissive at the time.   Knowing when the time and place are ripe for begging is almost instinctive and for it be most effective in enhancing the exchange, it cannot be contrived.

Begging Is Sexy Nonetheless

Overall, I think begging is an extremely erotic element in a power exchange.  I’m not talking about lip-service; I’m talking about the kind of begging that is sincere…the kind that demonstrates a genuine longing and desire to please one’s owner regardless of the submissive’s general comfort level in the particular situation.  Begging can be exhibited in words…in the sexy whisper of a heartfelt plea of “please”,  or it can be displayed through one’s body language (kneeling, a hungry look observed in the eyes, a certain way the body is postured).  Begging can be overdone though, and if anything it’s best reserved for more intense play sessions and exchanges.  Begging that turns into groveling can get old pretty fast.  And nobody likes a nag. 

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Turning over control of ones most basic body function is an exercise in humility and discipline.  Its a form of very intense micromanagement and a challenge for even the most seasoned submissive.  My Bathroom Control Challenge not only places your bladder function in my hands for the day, but it also incorporates elements of mild pain/sensation play.  You will need to devote the better part of one day to this assignment. It  will start when you wake up and continue until before you retire that evening.  For those who are aroused at the concept of public humiliation, this particular task will place you in a very precarious position at times.   If you are more interested in strengthening your disciplinary skills and wish to avoid the potential for public humiliation, it is best to work on this assignment when you have a day to yourself.     Please note, I do not recommend performing this challenge if you have any bladder problems or urological medical issues.

You will need:

• one standard 6-sided die or you can go here
• two clothespins or a pair of nipple clamps
• a ruler, spoon, metal spatula
• a watch or a timer
• access to plenty of beverages throughout the day
• a determined mindset

The challenge begins  first thing in the morning when you awaken, when your bladder is especially full.  The concept of the task is simple: every time you need to urinate throughout the day, you must first roll the dice to determine what your fate is and when/how you will be allowed to release your bladder.   The result of what you roll is my answer to the question, “Can I please go to the bathroom?”   The answers lie in the number you roll:

1. Yes, you may relieve yourself at once.
2. You must wait 15 minutes, then roll a second time and follow accordingly.
3. You must place the clothespins or clamps on your nipples and smack the pins/clamps swiftly with the ruler, spoon or spatula 50 times, each nipple.  Then you can pee.
4. You must spank your bottom with the ruler, spoon or spatula, fifty times, each cheek, then roll the dice again and follow accordingly.
5. You may relieve yourself at once.
6. You must stroke your cock or play with your pussy for 10 minutes, and then you may relieve yourself.

It is important that you consume plenty of fluids throughout the course of the day you take this challenge.  You should aim to drink enough water, coffee or beverage of choice constantly so that you need to use the bathroom nearly every hour.

When you have completed the task, I’d love your feedback in the comments section or in a private email.  I am interested in knowing what degree of difficulty this task posed for you, whether you had any accidents, how many trips to the bathroom you made, the results of the die rolls in the order they occurred, what you enjoyed most about the challenge and what you disliked.

Also, feel free to suggest themes for future assignments for the Kink Curriculum.

Mina, Kink Artist Extraordinaire

1-888-662-6482

AIM/Yahoo/Twitter: kinkyfunmina

Email: kinkyfunmina@yahoo.com

This is a slightly revised version of a simple orgasm control task I recently created for the cum-hungry folk who need juuuust a little extra direction and incentive to hold out for a more intense, explosive release.

Items needed:

• Your pussy or cock
• Your hand
• Images or video clips featuring men and/or women masturbating
• A timer or clock
• One full hour of dedicated practice

Before beginning this exercise for me, get yourself relaxed and in a quiet place where you will be free from disturbances.  Remove your clothing.  Look at the images or clips of people pleasuring themselves.  Notice the techniques they use…do they use their fingers? Hands? Toys?  What do their faces tell you as they explore their bodies?  Do they seem to be enjoying themselves?

Notice how your body is responding to the visual adrenaline.  Rub your pussy or cock gently…you may continue to look at the masturbatory images, or you can simply close your eyes and focus on a certain image or idea that gets you hot.  Keep touching yourself…get your cock or clit harder…your pussy wetter and wetter.  When you approach the nearing of your climax, stop.   Breathe.  Put your clothes back on.  Yes, you are reading correctly. 

Continue to calm yourself for the next 10 minutes.  Then, when the 10 minutes have elapsed, remove your clothing again.  Start to work up that cock..massage that hot cunt.  Look at your favorite images again…how do the people masturbating appear to you when they orgasm? How does it make you feel to see others getting off while knowing you have to wait?  Do. Not. Cum.  As soon as you start to approach that edge, take your hand away and get dressed again.  Take another 10 minute break and continue again, in the exact same way as you have been. 

You will repeat these instructions for a complete hour, with the ten minute rest intervals when you approach an orgasm.  When the hour is up, you may reward yourself with the orgasm you’ve been aching for. 

When you’ve completed this assignment, I want to know:

• How quickly did you come at the end of this task?  Did you notice whether the time it took from rest period to edge shortened as you proceeded through the steps?
• What images and/or video did you use to accompany the assignment?  What was going through your mind while you looked at people pleasuring themselves?
• Was it difficult for you to hold back and not orgasm until the end of the assignment?  How would you describe your orgasm when you finally were allowed to have one?

I appreciate any feedback and reporting on the Orgasm Control assignment…whether you’re comfortable enough to leave a response in the comment section or through an email to me at: kinkyfunmina@yahoo.com

Mina, Kink Artist Extraordinaire

1-888-662-6482

AIM/Yahoo/Twitter: kinkyfunmina

Now that my Kink Curriculum is about to begin a wonderfully filthy, sexy and exciting new semester, its time to brush up on some of the basics.  This post will be the first in an ongoing series of what I am titling….

Mina’s Alphabet of Kink

Yes, that’s right.  Before delving into the meat and balls of this semester’s syllabus, now is the perfect time to review our ABC’s.    

We will begin of course, at the beginning…with the letter “A”.   What will follow in this and subsequent posts are some terms and phrases that you will notice appearing regularly here.   These will be informative, exploratory and shared within the spirit of a positive sexual mindset.  Because regardless of how hard I may drive some of my students, its  done in fun and to bring about enlightenment when all is said and done.

And now, onto the Kink Alphabet…

A is For Anal

Anal pleasures and explorations are frequently viewed within a taboo lens.  In the kink community, anal play tends to be perceived in a more open mindset, as taboos are typically seen as a boundary to be pushed.  The wonderful thing about anal play is that it is an equal opportunity exploration.  Whether one is male or female, the anal passage is a spot that can be the main entree, if not at least the appetizer in any kink exploration or scene.  While many submissive individuals consider giving up their ass  as the ultimate act in surrender, I will say this:  fantasy or not, anal penetration is an activity that should always be done carefully.  I have met many submissive men who tell me how they want me to take them and “rape their ass hole  my 12 inch strap on”, but let’s be real for a moment, shall we? 

The anus is a very tiny orifice filled with sensitive nerve endings which when stimulated, feel quite pleasurable. The external and internal anal sphincters are just beyond this opening and these muscles can be damaged if not handled with care during sexual explorations. For the novice, the best thing to do to work up to inserting those toys and devices to experience that  beautiful feeling of being filled with something thick and immense. For more on anal sex and safety, check out this sexual health website.

In my experience, I have found that anal sex is an act which requires a good amount of trust between the parties involved.  Its more than just the biology of it and the risk of injury; anal sex is a way to literally open yourself up to another.  Its experimenting with taboos and roles and sexuality in general.

Whether you are male or female, anal sex acts place you in a vulnerable position.  Submissive individuals often crave that surrender and dominant persons are able to express a whole new way of control and ownership over their partner’s body.   Nowadays, anal pleasures are beginning to move away from a stereotypical activity shared between gay men only and many females are enjoying the role reversal afforded in being able to penetrate a male (or another female’s) ass hole.  Whether using a strap-on dildo, plug or other anal toy;  a tongue, a finger, or a fist, the idea of “penetrating” another leads to some very powerful feelings indeed.

For those just beginning to learn about anal play, here is a simple lesson plan to get you in the experimental frame of mind and start you on your journey of appreciating the pleasures of your ass…

Anal Exploration 101

You will need:

• a finger or two
• lots of *water-based* lube
• a relaxed atmosphere
• your naked body & imagination

You should be sure to bathe and cleanse your ass hole thoroughly before beginning this experiment.  If you are a female with long fingernails, I suggest using a latex glove to avoid scratching.  Males should have their finger nails trimmed as well and certainly can use a latex glove if it will increase comfort levels.

Lie down on a bed or floor naked and turn to your side.  Take some time to explore your naked flesh…don’t worry about getting right to your ass.  Enjoy making yourself feel relaxed and sexy.  Play with your nipples, stroke your cock or your pussy lips.  Think about how hot it makes you feel to have your naked body touched in all of those secret, sensitive places.  Think about me sitting in front of you, smiling, and watching you play with yourself.   Show me what makes you feel good and pay attention to how it makes you feel to reveal yourself to me. 

Take your bare (ungloved at first)  index finger and lick it for me.  Suck on it and get it nice and wet, then place it near your ass hole.  Very, very lightly, just *tickle* the outside of your anus.  Do not insert your finger yet.  Trace your wet finger around the rim of your ass hole and feel your body respond. 

When ready, lube up two fingers.  If you prefer the gloved method, put that on and lube the glove.  Start to massage around and into the anus slowly.  Don’t worry about inserting a finger all the way into your ass yet.  Just get lots of lube in and around the anal passage.  You should feel your hole beginning to respond, perhaps opening up a bit when your finger moves in.  Concentrate on sliding just the tip of your index finger in.  With your free hand, tickle your nipples, cock or clit some more.   Get more and more aroused for me.  Slowly, carefully push more of your finger inside of your ass hole.  If it hurts too much, please stop immediately.  You need to be as relaxed as possible and if pushing a finger in causes too much pain or discomfort, its best to rest and try again later.   The idea is not to force this, otherwise, it will not be enjoyable.

As you are able to tolerate, work your finger in deeper.  Do whatever feels good for *you*…if putting your whole finger in doesn’t feel right today, that’s ok.   Make it an experiment to see  how far you *can* go.  Pay attention to how your body and mind react to what you’re doing.  You may wank off at the same time, or, after playing with your ass for five or ten minutes, stop and get yourself off.  Congratulations on exploring a new way to express your sexuality!

For those who participate in this task and feel inclined, I invite you to share either in the comment section or in an email to me.  I’d love to hear how this activity went for you, what worked/didn’t work, what your thoughts were and anything else you’d like to share.

You may also reach me at 1-888-662-6482 when I am logged in for phone sessions to indulge in more anal adventures for me.   As always, feel free to email me at kinkyfunmina@yahoo.com with questions, comments, task reporting or to coordinate an appointment for a kink coaching phone session.

It excites you to think about giving yourself to me….giving a part of yourself to me that perhaps no one else has ever been privileged to play with.  Do you want to surrender?  Penetrating your flesh is just the first step.  Before long, I will have penetrated your mind and your soul.  And you will be a better person for it.

Until next time,

Mina, Kink Artist Extraordinaire

AIM/Yahoo: kinkyfunmina

My name is Miss Mina and I will be your instructor in all things erotic and kink.  I am a college graduate with a background in education and have decided to spread my metaphorical wings.  When I am not teaching or in school, I entertain clients in my phone sex business.   Many of you so love to receive assignments and perform tasks for me during our phone sessions, so I thought it would be a fun project to devote a blog to those of you who truly enjoy exploring your sexuality, fetishes and fantasies.

What To Expect Here

My goal for the Kink Curriculum Blog is to feature various themes which are often explored in phone sex sessions.  This will serve to keep some of my “students” busy when not engaged in live sessions, as well as introduce readers to the world of fetish, BDSM, submissive training, feminization, etc.  I will present mini-tasks  which I have personally designed and provide reflective prompts and educational material to help those delve more deeply into their desires.

This is an adult-themed blog, obviously.  If you are easily offended or under age 18, then please go away.  I embrace my Kink Curriculum and approach my students with a non-judgmental and understanding attitude.   Close-minded, uptight people need not apply.

From time to time, I may also post tidbits from assignments my students and clients have completed for me.  This will always be done with their consent and only those who have genuinely impressed me with their efforts will be featured in this blog.

You can also learn more about me and my exploits in my primary blog.  If you are interested in engaging in a phone session with me, I encourage you to look for me here.  If I am not available or online, you may also email me at kinkyfunmina@yahoo.com to schedule an appointment.

I look forward to assisting you in your continuing “education”. 

Mina

Kink Artist Extraordinaire 1-888-662-6482

Yahoo/AIM: kinkyfunmina